What are some disadvantages of living in rural areas? What are the advantages?

your world is more internal focused - may lead to having higher self-esteem, little to no anxiousness

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Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

I could keep going and going and going, so many memories are pouring in.

I admit I am lamenting.

having a girl over was also extremely special. It really felt like I was inviting someone into my world. Being alone out in the country with your crush…you feel like…again you're in a movie and its supremely romantic environment.

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If your family does not get a long and fights a lot - that’s basically all you see and know about the world until you leave and begin reformatting your brain.

there is less rules - for example if you want to start a bonfire by shooting a gas can with a pump shotgun, go right ahead.

imagination - oh my f***ing god. It seemed like some people who where born and raised in a city environment are literally living without an imagination. Like they’ve never had a original thought in their lives.

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you may have a more innate sense of adventure, and the idea of getting up and going out of the house is just a normal thing to do

you have to deal with people who are conformists - when you go to school, everyone just seems to be average and predictable - it was like there was a handful of different ‘characters or profiles’, and most people fit into a neat little box. On the bright side, it made choosing/finding the outliers quite simple.

less jealously / envy - due to less comparison to others

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when you hang out with someone, it is more meaningful and special because you have so little human contact outside of school and extra curriculars.

I was born and raised in the country.

I am 30 years old and have been living in a downtown city environment for 5+ years now.

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For added context, I have stayed in the following cities: Los Angeles, Las Vegas, Miami, New York, Philadelphia, Chicago, Boston | Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver and currently reside in Calgary.

So I’ve seen both sides of the fence! Rural and Urban.

We basically had no neighbours.

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Advantages

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less keeping up with the Joneses - almost no gossip, rumors, talking behind each other peoples back - which I find is the standard for almost every person I meet, which is a despicable quality.

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For reference the following ideas are coming from the view point of an adolescent mind that lived in a rural area from 1993–2012 (before social media).

if you are a kid you will need a drive to your friend’s houses / it may be difficult for your friends to get a ride to your place

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if your power goes out, that could be problematic

So, with that in mind…if you’d like to join me we are going to do a bit of time travelling today.

you may be more connected to, and appreciative of nature. I had the time of my life looking for and playing with toads and frogs as a child. Beavers, deer, coyote death battles happening outside my bedroom window….

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Wish you all the best,

I’m going to list off a couple advantages and disadvantages.

not nearly as susceptible to state sponsored ideological brainwashing

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I didn’t have anyone to relate to really….

Life was less trivial - doing things like cutting the grass, helping my dad build things, helping my mom in the garden….felt important, purposeful, and I had a higher sense of duty.

having a dog in the country is a completely different experience from having a dog in a city. When you can simply just open the door and let them outside - giving them the freedom to do their thing, was nothing short of incredible. They develop a personality, and you can tell how rich their life is compared to city dogs (lol just like people ;).

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As a lawn ornament he had a red CN rail train caboose air lifted in Via helicopter.

I seem to somehow forget this fact as well….many days I would hear the roars of lions.

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I release it to the internet.

people may be ‘stuck in their ways’ - unable to reconsider alternative ways of being / thinking.

if you are a person who requires high stimulation - likes a crowd, noise, and the ‘buzz’ of a densely populated area, you may have a prolonged sensation of unease and not exactly know why

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less exposure to and judgement from stupid, sad, depressed people.

My dad had a convertible Chevy Corvette, a full on hard core gym in our basement and a secret walk in armory and safe room. Blast proof reinforced steel and concrete. Damn, I was raised by a cool dude.

without really putting yourself out there, with sports, meet ups, activities, parties etc …. and actively trying to meet a lot of people, you will be lonely (this can be great for some introverted types), but for me as I got older - I wanted more.

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Out in the wooded area, there was a ‘secret’ half mile oval shaped track. In the middle was a custom built pond in the shape of a ‘P’ (first letter of our last name).

have a better conception of who you are and what you like doing - less copying of others just for the sake of fitting in

Social media and screen addiction has profoundly wounded the human soul.

I can tell you with high levels of confidence that my experience growing up in a rural area was overwhelmingly positive.

some people would say a lack of diversity. Whether that be culture, food, religion, thought, tradition, etc. This is certainly not a disadvantage to me, but it could be to you - so I’ll list it anyway

I can distinctly remember the world before screens took over.

To be more specific we were situated just about one hour north of Toronto.

My family had 64 acres of land.

when you see a beautiful girl out there in the real world, it was life changing……like omg, literally jaw dropping, butterflies, the whole nine yards.

slower internet

I mean you could see their houses, but you’d need a set of binoculars to make out what was going on.

Yes, real live lions.

less noise - soooo little noise - peace, quiet, tranquility

I’d appreciate that.

lack of entertainment options

proximity to shopping - its a whole ordeal - must be planned out first

When I was a young boy, my life felt like a fairy tale.

security - people can come on your property and steal your riding lawnmower (this happened to us)

exploring the woods was magical, you are in instant flow state - a sense of wonderment encapsulates your entire being. You use your mind to transcend reality and enter a different realm or world - you did not require any sort of external influence. It was automatic - boom.

My grandfather also had a house on the property - a humble 10 000 sq. ft. bungalow, with an indoor pool. He had a massive barn for his race horses, it was full of antiques, and miscellaneous oddities.

most of the time I would just go outside in my boxers

I didn’t know what the concept of lazy, or procrastination was when I was younger, I learned that through other kids, media and ‘society’.

Lived in a beautiful custom built house.

your conception of the world is very small, you have no idea what or who is out there

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going to the movies, an amusement park or even to a mall, felt special and like a big event….a massive deal - like Wo0oo00o0o0ow.

This is not some sort of smear campaign on people who grew up in the city, rather this is what I observed. This is my point of view.

There was a wild life sanctuary a few kilometers away.

This is a major point for me here: if you are smart and/or ambitious, and there are no successful people living a high quality of life around you might become miserable, alienated, depressed and not have a clue why.

If I was able to stir up some memories from your childhood.

On the topic of imagination as a kid you can shift your identity and take on a different role and act out an expansive detailed storyline. You can include others on your quests. You basically live out fantasies and have internal tales of triumph. Sure some people in a city could be creative and imaginative, my point is…when you are always in solitude, and alone with your mind - its the default condition.

Disadvantages

Fast forward to the present day….

The asker of the question calls for disadvantages first.

I went into a pretty deep meditative state which sent me into a whirl wind of vivid imagery.

need to get bussed into town to go to school and you feel like you are different than the ‘city folk’

riding around your families property on a dirt bike as a kid, you feel like you are in a movie - things like this lead to higher quality of life and overall contentment as a child- you feel like you are so cool.

you have have big ass house parties and no police show up - I believe I had around a 60 person party and my older brother had well over 100 people. For the record there was no damage, just a clogged toilet.